Thursday, October 21, 2010

Thoughts of the DH

Hello Everyone, Rachel has suggested that I write a guest blog entry. Warning, this is my first attempt and any type of entry so hang with me. I don’t know where to begin so I guess I will start at the beginning. When Rachel and I were dating adoption was the farthest thing from our conscience mind. Not that we didn’t believe in adoption, but rather we live in a community and went to school with very few people that we knew were adopted (once we adopted we now know several families that has been blessed by adoption).

Fast forward several months and we decided to begin planning for a family. The failure of infertility that resulted cut me deeply. I never told Rachel about this pain, because I tried to be the strong one for her. I wanted to let her know that it was OK; we would deal with whatever “cards” we were dealt. I remember the first time Rachel mentioned going to the adoption agency for an orientation meeting. Again, I was clueless about the process, but after the meeting I began to realize that adoption could be a route if we exhausted all other options.

The day that changed my life forever was the day Rachel and I received the call from our social worker. It was ironic because just the night before Rachel was chastising me for leaving my stuff lying around the house. She said “What are you going to do when we have a baby!” Yes, that’s right the night before we got the call she said that to me. Looking back we now know that our baby was born when she made this comment (now if I can get her to pick the lottery numbers). I am happy to report that things haven’t changed much, but I’m working on it. I figure that I have a couple months to work it out before “C” becomes mobile.

23 comments:

Circus Princess said... [Reply to comment]

Nice to meet you DH :) It's great to hear your perspective on how your little girl came in to your family, and congratulations on becoming a dad!!

Nick and Kristi said... [Reply to comment]

This is a great first post....Your guys story is a wonderful one:) So very blessed with such a little cutie!!!!

Jacksmom said... [Reply to comment]

Welcome to parenthood and congrats! Thanks for posting, it's nice to hear from the other half. Oh, Happy Birthday!

Crossed Fingers said... [Reply to comment]

First off - I hear it's your birthday so Happy Birthday!

Glad things are settling down and it's always great to hear from the "other side" on these stories! :)

Jennifer said... [Reply to comment]

What a sweet post. I hope you are having a Happy Birthday!!Congratulations on becoming a dad!

Heather Allen said... [Reply to comment]

She was nesting and did not even know it! Thanks for sharing your thoughts! HAPPY BIRTHDAY DAY!!!! My husband's is Monday!

rebecca said... [Reply to comment]

Hope you're enjoying a very Happy Birthday with your two girls:) It's funny how differently life turns out from what we had planned, but somehow we end up on the path that is right for us. Hope you guys continue to have many happy moments together as a family!
~ICLW

daega99 said... [Reply to comment]

Hope you had a wonderful birthday!!! Congrats on your wonderful family!!!

ICLW
http://daega99-arewethereyet.blogspot.com/

Krissi said... [Reply to comment]

Thanks for the post! What a refreshing change to have the hubby's point of view! By the way happy belated birthday! ;-) And happy ICLW! (#72 & 106)

Lisa Rouff, Ph.D. said... [Reply to comment]

It is so nice to hear things from the male point of view. I think what you said about not expressing your feelings about infertility because you wanted to be strong for your wife is very important for we ladies to hear....this is very common and helps us all understand our husband's reactions. Congratulations on your beautiful little girl!

Lisa Rouff, Ph.D.
www.theinfertilitytherapist.blogspot.com

Kathleen said... [Reply to comment]

happy iclw to you both. congrats on your adoption! what a beautiful family. best wishes

kathleen #31

Browniris said... [Reply to comment]

What a great post! Your little girl is beautiful! We are hoping to adopt (have been approved for just over two months), so it is nice to hear of other couple's success stories.

Happy ICLW!!!

Mrz. Hannah Myhre said... [Reply to comment]

This is a great post! Really enjoyed hearing your dh's point of view in what you both have been through. (now if I could ever convince mine to do it.lol)

I Love yalls story:) Hope your dh had a great birthday! And I'm sure it was even better this year because now yall have precious baby c to share it with you!!

Take Care,
Hannah

ICLW

Elaine VanDRiver said... [Reply to comment]

So nice to get the male perspective! And what a lovely story!

:)
Elaine, ICLW

Keiko said... [Reply to comment]

Happy belated birthday and a great guest post :) Thanks for sharing the oft elusive husband perspective. Congrats on your little one!

Happy ICLW!
~Keiko, Hannah Wept, Sarah Laughed (ICLW #142)

cowgirltn said... [Reply to comment]

Very nice for your 1st posting. Happy Birthday and congratulations on your little one.

Sarah said... [Reply to comment]

What a great story! Happy birthday and congrats on your sweet girl!

ICLW #8

Sarah said... [Reply to comment]

PS. My sister and her husband just adopted a little girl born right around the same time as your daughter (7-28-10) and we are so in love with our sweet Darcy!

heartincharge said... [Reply to comment]

I am so moved and inspired by your story. Thanks for sharing it. Hope you had a great birthday!

mamafog said... [Reply to comment]

Congrats on your baby and your first post. Hello from ICLW

Calmly Chaotic said... [Reply to comment]

I love that you did a guest post. I will convince my husband to do one one of these days. Great synopsis of your life to date. It must be exciting times in your house! Looking forward to reading more about your journey!

Sooz said... [Reply to comment]

Just visiting from ICLW -- I really enjoyed reading your blog.

Wanted to drop a note and say happy birthday and congratulations on the beautiful baby girl!

The Wifey said... [Reply to comment]

Happy Birthday, and congrats on a successful post!! :-)

It's so nice to hear the SO's point of view!!

 

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